Have you ever wondered why we are consumed by fear when we hear the word failure? See, we have been taught that failure is related to when something bad occurs such as, failing an exam which in the end will have a consequence. However, we are rarely taught to view failure as a positive.
Keeping in mind that failure is not that black and white and with it being very complicated as everyone has their own opinions in what they call failure within their own life – I feel failure is on a scale. On the lower end we have minimal consequence failure such as, not finishing that book you started. However, on the upper end of the scale the consequence increases such as, failing an exam that you are reliant on to get into the university of your choice. This is where the fear comes from.
For me, I have definitely ‘failed’ many times as for most of my life I have had undiagnosed dyslexia which has contributed hugely to failed exams/assessments. When failing became a regular occurrence I started to realise it was no longer constructive to see it this way in a negative light. So, using the acronym for the word fail: First Attempt at Learning, that I was taught in primary school – I was able to push through.
I was taught that acronym in primary school and I realised it has stuck with me all of these years and helped me though many of my failures. This year, I decided to start to make a conscious effort to view failure as a positive, not a negative. I want to start to use failing as a time of reflection, to evaluate what went wrong and what I could do better next time. I have noticed over the years, many people limit themselves due to the fact that they are worried about failing, but what are the consequences of that worry?
If you are scared of failure, it will limit your ability to challenge and push yourself. I have set myself very ambitious goals this year – some that I know may not come to fruition. However, I am not scared, I am excited and if I fail, I will use it as a learning experience. See, from what I have learned so far is if you don’t try and fail, you will never learn. This includes not learning what you enjoy doing and what you don’t enjoy doing – therefore not finding your passions and interests. In failing we can find out a lot, such as what we are willing to fail in to succeed. This then develops into passion.
With failure being unavoidable in life, so why not just push yourself this year and give failing a go? You will see that it is not that bad.
Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts – Winston Churchill.
Thank you for reading! 🙂